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Anger Management Article

Anger Management

Anger is a natural emotion and also may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. Anger can come as a reaction to criticism, threat or frustration. This is usually a healthy response.  Controlling and limiting anger is important in every aspect of one’s life. Without control, you are putting limits on what you can accomplish. Anger can be an incredibly damaging force, costing people their jobs, personal relationships, and causing chaos between parents and children.

Many people who suffer from short tempers say that they are unable to control it.  This is untrue, one cannot always control how they feel but they can control how they react. Anger has cycles, just like other things, there is always a trigger mechanism and that is the first part of the cycle. It may be caused by something so small and unimportant to someone else but to that person, it may be what sets off the emotions. The second step in the cycle is negative thoughts. The more you think the more it makes you angry. Another one is emotional repose. This is where anger takes place. The last two are physical symptoms and behavioral response.

There are always myths and facts about almost anything. Anger is not the same as aggression. There is a big difference. Anger is emotion, and aggression is behavior. Remember the anger cycles? If so, whenever it is said that anger is all in your head, we know it is a myth. We all like to vent when we are angry, but did you know that it is also a myth? Researchers have informed us that it actually has the opposite effect. Some things to keep in mind when you are angry: do not always react immediately; do not drag the situation out, do not avoid your emotions.

In some cases, the individual maybe angry with someone else and we received the affects of it. The best way to deal with an angry person is by not responding to their anger; doing so will only make the situation worst. Identify what is causing the person to be angry. That way you may be able to diffuse the situation. If the person is out of control, back away and do not get involved. In some cases, it is too late to try and help the person. Just like depression or anxiety we need to have a plan. There are some triggers that we can recognize to avoid anger. If you feel like you are getting angry go for a walk, watch a funny show or any show that will get your mind off the situation. Take a walk, this can be helpful. Take deep breaths.  Keeping these things in mind will help you control your anger and manage it better.